oh, also
she informed chris that the family will be having christmas this year at patty's house, and if he is still with me at that point, he will not be welcome there.
when i told chris this -- he hadn't read the emails -- he just laughed and said, "oh, god, big loss."
obviously, i agree... like i want to eat CHRISTMAS DINNER with this woman. but still. it bothers me that someone would be SO EVIL. i mean, even after everything she had done to me at this point, i never said she wasn't welcome at christmas. i told chris we needed to put her on probation when she stayed at our house. like, "mom, you want to stay here for a week and a half. we'll let you stay here for, say, the first three days, and if you behave yourself and not yell and make us miserable, we'll let you stay longer..."
and i wrote it wrong before... yeah, she's banished. communications from her are banished. she has not been informed of this, as it is better this way, but neither of us are going to be reading her spiteful crap anymore.
thanks for the comments, guys. i don't even know why you would feel the need to tell your son if you didn't think his girlfriend was pretty to begin with... as if this should be some hugely important trait for your daughter-in-law. whatever. but, agh, for ME to see this. i didn't need that. blah.
but anyway. thanks.